I love my boys, I really do. But, they ruined me and I'm not the only one.

I remember speaking with a friend at work, she was pregnant for the second time and I for the third. She said to me very seriously that she hoped to not have to have a c-section. She then said something very honest, funny and truthful to me... my vagina is already ruined, so I don't want to wreck my stomach as well. Now this isn't a vain individual, the exact opposite, someone who works out and takes care of herself. But she had honestly said to me what many women won't admit.

I am sure part of it was my own doing. All those celebrities with personal trainers, in fantastic shape before pregnancy seem to have no problem bouncing back. I on the other hand am now about 15 pounds heavier than I was before I had Declan. And things are sagging and larger everywhere!

After breast feeding just two of them my boobs are smaller and sagging. I guess this is why they invented push-up bras!

I have stretch marks on my stomach, which actually aren't too bad after the excessive application of belly butter throughout pregnancy.

And after an episiotomy and three tears my vagina is also ruined.

I hope my sister-in laws don't read this though, because I would love a niece or nephew!

What A Way To Start

He Said...

Kickin' it off with a bang! I think this one is really funny. Being in a band I am lucky enough to get out in front of people on the weekends and do something that I am really passionate about. It is really just an excuse to hang out with my friends and have a bit of a fun. The reality of the situation is that I am a Father of 3 and a husband. I love doing what I do and like to think that I am pretty good at it.

When I actually have someone come up to me and ask me if I am taken or if I would be interested in hanging out with them I am genuinely flattered. As a 34 year old man it is a great boost to the ego when anyone still finds you remotely interesting. But in the end that's it. At this point I am pretty honest and up front about the fact that I am married and have kids.

I do however think that it is funny that on more than one occasion the fact that I am married hasn't fazed people but the fact that I have kids changes everything. I don't blame Andrea for being upset but I honestly think that there is nothing malicious about it. I think that in the end girls are now just acting the way guys have for years. It has become accepted that this is the way that people act.

I have also watched Andrea get a laugh out of drunk girls who are doing their best to sway in front of me while giving me the eye. I can think of one situation specifically where I had to close my eyes and pretend I was concentrating really hard on the song that I was singing to stop from laughing out loud.

All in all as I said I find it flattering and a good laugh which I think is all it is intended to be.

This picture was taken the day Simon and I got married 5 years ago. In that time we have had ups and downs including three children and a flood that left us homeless for three months. The point here is that we made a commitment to each other in marriage and to us that means something.


Simon came home the other night from a Driven gig. He proceeded to tell me the story of a woman who hit on him. This is not where I fly into a jealous rage, in fact I generally find it humorous. This night however I got angry, not about someone making a pass at my husband but about the actions of some women today. When we got married we did so with the understanding that it would be for life. Yet there are women out there who don't give a second thought to making a pass at a man who has made that commitment. To add insult to injury, Simon was no longer appealing to this woman when she found out he had children. So it is alright to break up my marriage but not if I have kids? Come on! When did women lose their moral compass and have so little respect for themselves and others? I am certainly not perfect, as you will come to find out, but I cannot believe that is has become 'alright' and that marriage has lost it's significance to so many women. I am not trying to judge, if marriage is not for you okay, but don't try to break up mine!


If you wanted to clone my husband, as has been suggested, well that is a different story;)